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Tuesday, March 19, 2013

"The Three C's of Hearing Loss" Guest Post by Shanna Groves

Today's guest post is by author and speaker Shanna Groves. Shanna is the driving force behind the #showmeyourears campaign on Twitter and "Show Me Your Ears" on her website. Her campaign promotes the use of  hearing aids, cochlear implants and dispels the stigma that once came with them. People from all over have been taking snapshots of their "ear gear" and sharing their photos. You will find the link to this wonderful campaign at the bottom of the page along with her other information. I added a photo of one of my ear gears at the bottom of this post.

Thank you, Shanna, for sharing your heart with us in "The Three C's of Hearing Loss".


The Three "Cs" of Hearing Loss

By Shanna Groves

At the age of 27, I was a glowing new mom. My son was a healthy seven-pounder with tufts of strawberry-blond hair. My days were spent holding him because I didn't want to let go. My nights were spent with him laying beside me. The only way I could fall asleep was to have that baby with me at all times.

At the same time I became a mom, something else chose to be with me 24 hours a day. It was the sound of ringing bells in both my ears---a sound that only I could hear. It was the growing awareness that voices had become softer. Hearing loss chose me, but I didn't want it to.

Adult-onset hearing loss and tinnitus (ringing in the ears) are more common than anyone cares to admit. Causes: noise exposure, illness, hormonal changes, genetics or, in my case, all of these things. 

Are you dealing with a hearing loss you weren't born with? These three principles have helped put my mind at ease:

Hearing loss may shape who I am now, yet some things never change. If I can remember the things about myself that remain the same---my dreams, goals, personality traits---then I know that hearing loss hasn't defeated me. Before my hearing diagnosis, I wanted to write. Eleven years later, I write. I once dreamed that I would have a healthy family. Eleven years later, I have three healthy children and a loving husband. I've always enjoyed being around people. Hearing loss or not, that hasn't changed.

Hearing loss heightens my compassion---an awareness of other people's needs. If I stop focusing on what I don't have, I realize that a lot more people have far less than I do. How can I help them? My focus instead shifts from my hearing loss to reaching out to other people. My ears may be defective, but my hands and feet work fine. I'm still able-bodied to serve others.

Hearing loss is a community. Among those I can reach out to are millions of people worldwide living with hearing loss. I have found a sense of community through such groups as the Hearing Loss Association of America, Association of Late-Deafened Adults, the SayWhatClub, and many more organizations online. I can use my skill (writing) and my compassion to touch the lives of this growing community. In doing so, I know that I am not alone.

If you substitute the words "Hearing Loss" in the above paragraphs with "My Life," you can put into context what a gift my hearing diagnosis has been. My senses of compassion, community, and change are heightened. I like that aspect of hearing loss. 

How has hearing loss shaped who you are today? 

(c) Shanna Groves


Author and Speaker Shanna Groves writes about the roller coaster journey of being a hard of hearing parent in her new memoir, Confessions of a Lip Reading Mom. Read more of her story at ShannaGroves.com and LipreadingMom.com.


Shanna's book "Confessions of a Lip Reading Mom" is about to launch. This is a great time to order your copy: http://lipreadingmom.com/order-lipreading-moms-book/\

Follow Lip Reading Mom on Twitter: https://twitter.com/LipreadingMom

Shanna also has a FaceBook page: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorShannaGroves

Here's a snap shot of one of my hearing aids, Shanna, for you to download and use as you please for your campaign - Joyce 


  1. This is a great guest post regarding hearing loss who can I contact to submit my own?

    1. Hello, Anonymous,

      You can send your story to xpressivehandz@hotmail.com

      Thank you for your question.